Comments on julie golean: wing it.

I love these steps that you are taking :) I totall...

2010-01-14T06:51:32.531-05:00

I love these steps that you are taking :) I totally agree with you that..this is not how I saw myself and where I would be (back to school, living at home..) etc etc...just takes some patience and live and let live!

It's so hard for me to be spontaneous, too because...

2010-01-12T21:45:23.948-05:00

It's so hard for me to be spontaneous, too because that's just not how I roll. I also thrive on success and schedules, but I've had to learn (the hard way sometimes) that I need to chill more..definitely still a work in progress. This post is a good reminder that sometimes we all need to be spontaneous!

I am really sad to read about my beloved Michael b...

2010-01-12T14:37:30.371-05:00

I am really sad to read about my beloved Michael being off the market. I had always said that if I weren't married by the age of 30, I'd pursue Mr. Buble. Sigh.
You and I sound very similar--I NEED a routine, and if it gets upset somehow, my panties get in a a wad quite quickly. Here's to a future of going with the flow;)

I used to be this way before I met my husband. Ma...

2010-01-12T12:40:40.653-05:00

I used to be this way before I met my husband. Maybe not to your extreme but definitely a creature of habit and I thrived on structure. He on the other hand is VERY spontaneous and impulsive and has really loosened me up!

The fact that you are working on it is progress in itself :) I call it being present in your own life. Sometimes I feel like I am watching my life go by from the outside just waiting for each day to be over and done with. That's no fun!! We should really live each day and try to be as present in the moment as possible.

Now I'm off to figure out how to practice what I preach...

aww girl thank you for being so honest! before i h...

2010-01-11T23:46:25.278-05:00

aww girl thank you for being so honest! before i had my boyfriend, i was SO worried i was going to be a hermit and so scared of breaking out of my routine! but, trust me, once you meet the right guy, you wont think twice about it!! youll be fine :)

I felt like you were talking about me! Great post ...

2010-01-11T23:10:47.491-05:00

I felt like you were talking about me! Great post Julie! So open and honest. It's nice to know I'm not alone! You're my sister from the opposite coast! Thank you!!! You are amazing!
Barbara

Girl, you are awesome for a) posting this b) stepp...

2010-01-11T21:35:17.866-05:00

Girl, you are awesome for a) posting this b) stepping out of your comfort zone no matter how big and/or little and c) your honesty. It's hard to admit when we're neurotic and the things we'd like to change about ourselves so props to you. You listed all those things that you didn't like/wanted to improve on - I think your next post should be about the things you totally kick arse on!! I bet there are wayyyyy more of column B ;) Love ya girl!

I think the best way to live life is by letting th...

2010-01-11T21:35:13.704-05:00

I think the best way to live life is by letting things go with the flow. I am a firm believe that things happen for a reason. I think it is important to reflect as you did.

I am the same way when it comes to a schedule. I ...

2010-01-11T21:31:44.511-05:00

I am the same way when it comes to a schedule. I guess I am pretty neurotic too!

I think this was a great post! I'm also neurotic a...

2010-01-11T21:30:16.689-05:00

I think this was a great post! I'm also neurotic about planning.. I really try to plan to ease my stress but sometimes it makes it worse! Grr!!

I hope you had a great day and aren't feeling stressed!!

This is a wonderful thing to work on, Julie. I hav...

2010-01-11T21:05:53.208-05:00

This is a wonderful thing to work on, Julie. I have had the same problem in the past; I'm a bit of a neurotic control freak (heh) and I've had to let go of that to just EMBRACE what life throws at me. And I'm much happier for it.

OMG I was just watching E! and I saw that bublay w...

2010-01-11T20:03:26.860-05:00

OMG I was just watching E! and I saw that bublay was taken by the chick in his music video too! I mean she is georgous but so sad for us :( what is this I hear that Jake gynellhal and Reese broke up?! any truth to this?

OMG we are such twins when it comes to being a creature of habit and I even talked about it when I just posted right now! I HATE change, never have dealt well with this and acutally was in therapy for it when i was younger, I used to get extreme anxiety from 'not knowing' what was to come, so I have learned to be as flexible as I can because well, life cannot be planned sometimes! Some days I have my normal routines and when I dont feel like it or too sore to do my normal gym routine, I get SO thrown off like "what is wrong with me?!" it takesme a lot sometimes to wing-it so I know EXACTLY what you mean!!

LOve you girl!!

Hey My Sweet Julie...I am a creature of HABIT and ...

2010-01-11T19:39:36.833-05:00

Hey My Sweet Julie...I am a creature of HABIT and I love routine, but what works for me is to know I am going to do yoga and a 2 mile run and a shower and coffee and cook and take care of my kid. And I have 3 hrs to do all that. I have learned to be flexible in the order i do things, but not skip them or be so "spontaneous" that I dont do the things i truly want/need to do...but that if i am flexible with the ordering, then it's easier. Maybe that will help you some if you were asking for tips :)

And parenthood = the greatest source of taking one out of comfort zone there ever was. OMG 3 yrs later I am still like whoa, what just happened!

ahhhhh my lovepie, we are own identical paths righ...

2010-01-11T18:39:56.954-05:00

ahhhhh my lovepie, we are own identical paths right now!!! as you know I am a schedule-whore and thrive on ahving my day planned out to a tea. This ain't no life! you did such a phenom job winging it and really inspired me to do the same. Thanks for being so damn awesome, babydoll. I love ya! xo

I loved this post. I think so many of us are the s...

2010-01-11T16:59:02.318-05:00

I loved this post. I think so many of us are the same way and freak out when something does not go as planned. Glad you had the weekend to relax and wing it! I love the random food pictures in between your talking! Especially the sushi!

Wrap and dessert look great!

2010-01-11T16:41:36.922-05:00

Wrap and dessert look great!

Julie, This post taught me something about you t...

2010-01-11T15:40:11.169-05:00

Julie,

This post taught me something about you that I really never knew. I mean, I could tell you were pretty scheduled, but from what you've said in this post, it wasn't just being scheduled, it's almost an obsession, right? Well sister, I used to be just like you! And in fact I have had plenty similar conversations with my own mother, "Gina, why can't you just switch your schedule this ONE TIME? Is it going to kill you? What will you do when you have a job that isn't scheduled?"! Yadda yadda. Well, I read the book, "Slowing Down to the Speed of Life" and I realized that life is SO MUCH better when you just Live in the moment.
Today I was randomly asked to do another segment for NBC4. I thought to myself, "Well, I have a schedule of things I need to do, but I should do this, and I will, I can get the other things done later". Last year I would have said NO to the great opportunity, as I would have felt it was necessary to stick to my rigid schedule.
I am much happier now that I live in the moment, and life is just much more fun. I hope you can slowly learn to do the same :) Thanks for sharing your story!

you have some good eats! love the fage "icing" it ...

2010-01-11T15:31:47.687-05:00

you have some good eats! love the fage "icing" it sounds delicious. & i agree about what you said about success- it is really important to consider how we define success & what success should truthfully be measured by.

& aww i LOVEEE buble..hottie :)

xoxox
shelley

"so much of my life is spent stressing about what ...

2010-01-11T15:05:22.620-05:00

"so much of my life is spent stressing about what i’m going to do. everyday i’m stressed about my “lack of progress with life” i don’t have a full time job, i’m still in school, my bank account is empty, i’m still living at home, the things i “want” in life seem so far away and that stresses me out. "

<-----that is me. Did *I* type that?! it's nice to know that there are others out there who share the same worries and "woes." I try to focus on the POSITIVE: I'm EXTREMELY lucky to be able to live at home with my parents for free, and with welcome. My parents love me (and even buy me stuff.)

everyone is on their OWN life schedule, it's not a competition and you really can't compare yourself to ANYONE. Some of my friends are MARRIED, some have great careers, but I'm taking the intense school route. Tough cookies.

Oh, one of my good friends is sad about Jeter too....

2010-01-11T14:37:28.041-05:00

Oh, one of my good friends is sad about Jeter too. She's a die hard Yankees fan.

I also like to plan things out and stick to a routine, but it's good to get out of that once in a while and mix it up!

I teared when I heard on Z100 this morning that my...

2010-01-11T14:27:20.387-05:00

I teared when I heard on Z100 this morning that my beloved Bublé is engaged...sad panda!

And to believe I slept all night with my Bublé Pandora station playing...I feel cheated ha

You might've thought it was rambling, but I really...

2010-01-11T14:22:48.014-05:00

You might've thought it was rambling, but I really enjoyed this post. Like you, I try to plan and schedule every little thing. I think it saves me time and gives me control, but sometimes I wonder if it actually makes me lose time? I wish I tried to live outside of my "plan" more. You've inspired me - I vote for more posts like this! Thanks Julie!

Really great post, I can completely relate. I'm bi...

2010-01-11T14:17:11.107-05:00

Really great post, I can completely relate. I'm big on planning my life out and right now with no definite finish date for grad school, no job lined up for when I finish, no idea what the boy and I will do in the coming months as I most likely move, no idea what I even want to do as a career, I have been really trying to be "in the moment" of my life for once and doing what makes me happy NOW, not for some far off point in time. It sounds like you got a great start though, good luck while you figure out how to balance your planning and your winging it! :)
-Katie

I'm a HUGE routine gal, too. I don't mind a spora...

2010-01-11T13:44:47.303-05:00

I'm a HUGE routine gal, too. I don't mind a sporadic day or 2, but I get very cranky if my "schedule" goes unattended to too long. I too fear that I've become anal with age, so I really try to put myself out there sometimes even if I'm cringing inside.

I'm SO the same way. A lot of the time I justify i...

2010-01-11T13:39:48.207-05:00

I'm SO the same way. A lot of the time I justify it by saying the only way things will get accomplished is by doing this, but really...what could get so off track that it would be THAT awful? We'd have to eat cereal for dinner once a week? I would like to be more sporadic too. Maybe we can be each others cheerleaders.